[Oil Can]

Originally Posted by Kiss_My_Darius

And we don't need to be let outside or have our box or cage cleaned.

I think Mediocre Man does need to be let out of his cage on occasion.

[ProudBFan]

OK, get this:

We were at our son's taekwondo lesson yesterday afternoon. His free 1st month ended last week (and he got his yellow belt!), so they were talking to us about signing up for another 6 months (which would take him up another 2 belts to green). He really enjoys it, and is doing very well at it (excellent form), and we want him to continue. So I talked to my wife about signing him up, and agreed that if I paid for this month (first month of the 6 month program - $150), she would pay for the remaining 5 months ($100 per). So I signed him up, and gave the place my debit card info to do so. But when they asked her for her credit card info for when time comes to auto-pay those months, she looked in her wallet and then said she didn't have her card with her. When I asked where it was, she said Burnadette had it. And when I asked why she gave her credit card to Burnadette, she said Burnadette was picking something up for her.

Remember my little theory about Dan & Burnadette using my wife to supplement their income? Well, now Burnadette has my wife's credit card (if she was telling the truth about that).

After we all left, I went back and talked to the gal who signed us up. My concern was/is that my wife won't give them her credit card info before/when the time comes, and I will be stuck holding the bag. The lady said she heard my wife agree to making the remaining monthly payments, and if there are any issues they will take it up with her. I need to get the whole thing in writing.

Every time I have to interact with her, I walk away feeling used and dirty.

PBF

[MARIS61]

That's pretty steep for TKD classes. PCC has excellent instructors for a fraction of that cost. My oldest studied for a few years and they participated in several tournaments in OR and WA.

It's great for him, BTW. Keep him in it somehow for as long as he wants.

There's something very creepy about your wife's relationship with these people. Drugs, sex, theft...something's behind the strange behavior and I'd find out exactly what or I'd be looking for a way to get my kids completely and permanently out of harm's way. Have you or your attorney talked to a PI?

[B_&_B]

Thats about what I pay for my son's karate classes in E.Vancouver. I actually pay a little more. What I found crazy was how fast he will become a green belt. My son's karate school moves them up at a much slower pace. My son has been in it for over 2 years, and he just now became a green belt. At the rate of PBF's school, his son will be a black belt in a year.

I agree with you now PBF about your wife and her "friends". It's crazy that she would give them her credit card. Hopefully, you are not in anyway associated with that credit card.

[It's_GO_Time]

Just to add another opinion: I agree that your wife's story about her credit card sounds strange. Either she is making it up, which is cause for concern . . . or she is telling the truth, which is cause for concern.

It might be smart to start a journal and make a record of all these incidents.

[TLo]

For the record I think your wife's credit card story is odd too. Something strange is going on. You shouldn't be able to use someone else's credit card at most businesses. Has your wife ever done drugs?

[ProudBFan]

Originally Posted by B_&_B

I agree with you now PBF about your wife and her "friends". It's crazy that she would give them her credit card. Hopefully, you are not in anyway associated with that credit card.

It doesnt show up on any of my credit reports (checked all 3 credit bureaus).

BTW, just passing on something I have learned through all this: If you find yourself facing a divorce, get your credit reports via FreeCreditReport.com asap. The quick, free one only covers one of the three credit bureaus - pay the $24.95 to get all three. It is / could be WELL worth it.

PBF

[ProudBFan]

Originally Posted by Kiss_My_Darius

It might be smart to start a journal and make a record of all these incidents.

I am, KMD. Believe me, I am.

BTW, a friend told me that in cases of pending divorce in Oregon, one party willfully preventing the other from having access to joint funds (as she has done to me) is a violation of State statutes (i.e., is illegal). I have a copy of all the state Statutes now and am checking to see if this is true.

PBF

[ProudBFan]

Originally Posted by TLo

Has your wife ever done drugs?

Not since a couple years before we got married (our younger, wilder days). And even then it was just the (very) occasional casual thing when friends had some and offered it (to both of us). And neither of us are drinkers, either. Short-cases of beer have been known to go stale in our fridge (and believe me, that takes a lot of time and effort).

I dont suspect drugs at all. Never even suspected her friends of it before I got pushed out of the picture, and I know what to look for (OSU education was good for something). But I do suspect some kind of collusion going on between them - either her friends using her to supplement their income, or really working with her to screw me over.

PBF

[Paul Allen]

Originally Posted by ProudBFan

I am, KMD. Believe me, I am.

BTW, a friend told me that in cases of pending divorce in Oregon, one party willfully preventing the other from having access to joint funds (as she has done to me) is a violation of State statutes (i.e., is illegal). I have a copy of all the state Statutes now and am checking to see if this is true.

PBF

PBF, your lawyer should be telling you this...not a friend.

Best of luck to you, others (even on this board) have been in the same position as you, so it CAN be done!

[RedHot&Rolling]

PFB - still very sorry this is going on in your life. Big Bummer.

Stop using the fake credit card (aka Debit card) and get a real one. You control what you pay and what you don't. Fake one's allow the business to withdraw with no recourse. Credit cards allow you to dispute the charge up to 60 days afterwards.

Glad to see you still checking in with your extended "family"!!

[ProudBFan]

Originally Posted by RedHot&Rolling

PFB - still very sorry this is going on in your life. Big Bummer.

Stop using the fake credit card (aka Debit card) and get a real one. You control what you pay and what you don't. Fake one's allow the business to withdraw with no recourse. Credit cards allow you to dispute the charge up to 60 days afterwards.

Glad to see you still checking in with your extended "family"!!

Good advice, RH&R. I will look into that next chance I get.

PBF

[ProudBFan]

Starting to feel like I'm able to stand on my own two feet again - and stand up to the soon-to-be ex. Had a REALLY busy (but rewarding) day yesterday, with Bring Your Kid to Work day, an afternoon birthday party, evening baseball practice, and getting the IRS off my back with a single phone-call (came home to a nice little letter from them saying I hadn't reported over $99,000 in income on my 2005 tax returns - I did, just not where they were looking for it). And my manager is out today, no new builds on the horizon, the sun is shining, I'm able to focus on getting some real work done, and Evanescence is blasting these words into my consciousness:

Now I will tell you what I've done for you -
50 thousand tears I've cried.
Screaming, deceiving and bleeding for you -
And you still won't hear me.
(going under)

Don't want your hand this time - I'll save myself.
Maybe I'll wake up for once (wake up for once)
Not tormented daily, defeated by you
Just when I thought I'd reached the bottom

I'm dying again

I'm going under (going under)
Drowning in you (drowning in you)
I'm falling forever (falling forever)
I've got to break through
I'm going under

Blurring and stirring the truth and the lies
(So I don't know what's real and what's not)
Always confusing the thoughts in my head
So I can't trust myself anymore

I'm dying again

I'm going under (going under)
Drowning in you (drowning in you)
I'm falling forever (falling forever)
I've got to break through

I'm...

So go on and scream, scream at me
I'm so far away (so far away)
I won't be broken again
I've got to breathe
I can't keep going under

I'm dying again

I'm going under (going under)
Drowning in you (drowning in you)
I'm falling forever (falling forever)
I've got to break through

I'm going under (going under)
Going under (drowning in you)
I'm going under

It's about someone learning to break out of a bad relationship and stand on their own again.

Yes, today is a pretty good day. The roller-coaster is on the way up at the moment.

Probably won't get a chance to check in this weekend (the kids are with me, and we're gonna be busy). I'll check back in Monday.

Have a good one, all.

PBF