Simply said - feelings can NEVER dictate what should happen re the allegations. This, my friends, is offered by someone who has dealt professionally with helping countless victims through such experiences. Period. Over and out.
Nothing about you in any way indicates you help victims. You have the background of a police officer — can be a very noble profession, but by and large the way departments handle rape and sexual assault has largely compounded the trauma of victims and makes it even harder for them to come forward. You’ve built your resume up to be one of some national level activities, but mostly you help organizations, companies and corporations handle these situations.
The fact you are a known supporter of UVM hoops, booster of the athletic department, involved alumnus and have not once used your platform to make any sort of public statement calling for transparency (that isn’t presuming guilt, just calling for transparency) or statement of any sort of support saying victims aren’t alone speaks volumes.
The fact you and I both know from the alumni and Athletics networks that some really horrific, presumptive statements completely attacking the character of Kendall Ware and making some horrific, completely unfounded claims about her and the events that happened that night — claims being peddled by people who weren’t there and thus have no basis to make such claims — and yet you remain silent on this is very telling about you and your priorities.
Someone who is truly a victim ally and trauma informed knows that they can, and indeed need to, shut down the kind of victim blaming character assassinations and ignorant rhetoric peddled about survivors whenever they come forward, the rhetoric being told in alumni and Vermont athletic circles, and that you can shut that kind of nonsense down without assessing guilt to the other side.
Your silence speaks volumes about you and what your priorities are.