Professional and College Basketball Forums banner

1 - 20 of 41 Posts

·
Administrator
Joined
·
67,765 Posts
Discussion Starter #1
I guess it's time for another of these...

How long did you really think you would wait to lose your virginity until marriage (if ever) and what changed your mind (peer pressure, hormones, rebellion, religion, etc.)?
 

·
Legal Smeagol
Joined
·
30,760 Posts
For me, losing virginity was always AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, and still took until I was 17, for reasons completely out of my control. All in all it wasn't too much later than I expected it to be, marriage issue aside.
 

·
Administrator
Joined
·
67,765 Posts
Discussion Starter #3
So you never had any moral hang-ups about it when you were young?
 

·
Legal Smeagol
Joined
·
30,760 Posts
An advantage of a Talmudic education (that my Rabbis wished I never realized) was that I was able to find loopholes, justifications, and counter-arguments for everything - and my hormones gave me a reason to find them.
 

·
Administrator
Joined
·
67,765 Posts
Discussion Starter #6

·
Administrator
Joined
·
67,765 Posts
Discussion Starter #8

·
Super Moderator
Joined
·
17,419 Posts
My mindset was always "as soon as possible." Although growing up I made sure I took precautions (like making sure I had a condom handy). Lost my virginity at 17 and I had absolutely no moral hang ups about it. IMO, waiting for marriage to have sex is a dated concept.
 

·
Administrator
Joined
·
67,765 Posts
Discussion Starter #11
The reason I asked this question was threefold:

1) I was raised very religious and therefore legitimately thought I would stay celibate until marriage.
2) I still managed to lose my virginity at a very young age.
3) I have regretted losing my innocence too early and maturing too fast for pretty much the rest of my life.
 

·
Lifetime Member
Joined
·
24,723 Posts
Was never raised with any religious beliefs, lost it at 16, in a friends spare bed whilst shitfaced drunk. Whatever.
 

·
Super Moderator
Joined
·
17,419 Posts
I suppose I should clarify a couple more things for myself. I was not raised very religious. And while I did not have moral hang ups about losing my virginity at a young age, I wasn't out there trying to bang any chick that would have me. I saved it for a girl who I cared deeply for. I've moved on from her and currently have no moral hang ups of having a friends with benefits situation at the moment.
 

·
Lifetime Member
Joined
·
24,723 Posts
^Ditto. I was in a friends bed and shitfaced drunk, but it was with a girl I'd been with for 2 years, and ended up with for 5 years. (we broke up a month or so ago)
 

·
Administrator
Joined
·
67,765 Posts
Discussion Starter #15
I, on the other hand, did not lose mine to a girl who I was with for very long (3 months, I think). That is another regret of mine.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
35,113 Posts
I smoked a spliff, drunk roughly 10 beers, got my usually over excitable penis out and attempted to plunge it into my willing lady friend and only to realise I wasn't particularly standing to attention.

A freezing cold blow job later, I had sex for the first time.

I left very disappointed. I presume most people felt that way after the first time. The hype was way higher in my head, and I have happily gone on to realise those particular dreams.

EDIT - Not religious. Turned down sex a couple times beforehand. The girl was a long time friend that I knew had always wanted to get me in her. Not a bad thought about how it went down, I was just happy at the time to get it out of the way.
 

·
Super Moderator
Joined
·
21,879 Posts
My first time having sex was actually great, and it went quite well (in terms of the girl being satisfied). However, my first time was with a girl who was cheating on her boyfriend with me. I regret that now with hindsight because I've been cheated on, and I've also cheated on somebody, but those were always strong beliefs of mine growing up. That I wouldn't tolerate unfaithfulness, and thus I would remain faithful or get out of the relationship. Sadly it didn't take much for neither of those things to be true. Though I have been with my current girlfriend for about 3 years now and haven't cheated on her, and I cheated on a different girl with my current (ex at the time) girl. Sloppy situation, but it is what it is.
 

·
Have a GREAT day!
Joined
·
13,796 Posts
I didn't lose my virginity...I know exactly where I put it.
 
1 - 20 of 41 Posts
Top